What is Trauma?
Any situation in which you perceived that you were overwhelmed and helpless. To be overwhelmed is to be human. There is no shame in being human.
Hi there, I’m Wilma!
Out of the Ashes I will rise and allow the Lord to shine through me and create a place of safety for your shame and pain. May you learn from my pain/shame and know you are not alone.
I grew up in an Amish community and left at 17, unaware of the deep-rooted trauma and spiritual abuse that shaped my early life. Untangling the shame and pain of those experiences took time, but I’ve learned to “Be Still and know that He is God,” trusting that He is not waiting for us to fail.
My journey has been marked by broken relationships, betrayal, and heartbreak. I married my childhood sweetheart, only to face lies and betrayal, leaving me devastated. Divorce felt like the ultimate scarlet letter. In seeking healing, I was taken advantage of by a counselor, which led to a decision I deeply regretted, an abortion. I was lost in shame.
I remarried for the wrong reasons, and after 16 years, I found myself in a marriage that mirrored the trauma of my Amish upbringing. Alone and ashamed, I cried out to God, asking why I kept finding people who hurt me. His answer revealed a truth I had been avoiding I was trying to fix others to make up for not being able to fix my family. I finally surrendered, realizing it’s not my job to be anyone’s savior—only Jesus can hold that role.
Today, I am married to a man I don’t have to fix. We are two imperfect people walking together with Christ at the center of our lives. Through my journey, I’ve learned that growing up in trauma makes dysfunction feel normal. Breaking free from this cycle is possible, leading to healthy relationships without shame or control.
I am an RN/BSN and a Certified Biblical Trauma Coach through Nothing Is Wasted Ministries. At 50, I’m embracing a new perspective—the best is yet to come! My passion is to provide a safe, non-judgmental space where you can be heard without shame. I understand the questions you might be wrestling with: Am I still a Christian if I’m triggered? Why do I feel this way? Can I control my triggers? Do I lack faith because I’m not over it yet?
I’m here to walk alongside you in your pain, offering mercy, grace, and understanding. Together, we will let God turn our ashes into beauty, reflecting His light like a kaleidoscope.
“It’s not how many times you fall; it’s how you get up.” Let’s stand strong with the Lord on our side.