Trauma does not have the final word, the Cross does!

Shame is subtle and silent. Evil uses it as a weapon and keeps us from pursuing life and healing.

Let’s create beauty by submitting our trauma to the light of Jesus Truth!

“Shame stuck in the body is like being nauseous and unable to throw up.” - Curt Thompson

There is always a pearl in the poop. But you may have to put your boots on and go digging for it.

I grew up in an Amish community and left at 17, unaware of the deep-rooted trauma and spiritual abuse that shaped my early life. Untangling the shame and pain of those experiences took time, but I’ve learned to “Be Still and know that He is God,” trusting that He is not waiting for us to fail.

My journey has been marked by broken relationships, betrayal, and heartbreak. I married my childhood sweetheart, only to face lies and betrayal, leaving me devastated. Divorce felt like the ultimate scarlet letter. In seeking healing, I was taken advantage of by a counselor, which led to a decision I deeply regretted, an abortion. I was lost in shame.

I remarried for the wrong reasons, and after 16 years, I found myself in a marriage that mirrored the trauma of my Amish upbringing. Alone and ashamed, I cried out to God, asking why I kept finding people who hurt me. His answer revealed a truth I had been avoiding I was trying to fix others to make up for not being able to fix my family. I finally surrendered, realizing it’s not my job to be anyone’s savior—only Jesus can hold that role.

Today, I am married to a man I don’t have to fix. We are two imperfect people walking together with Christ at the center of our lives. Through my journey, I’ve learned that growing up in trauma makes dysfunction feel normal. Breaking free from this cycle is possible, leading to healthy relationships without shame or control.

I am an RN/BSN and a Certified Biblical Trauma Coach through Nothing Is Wasted Ministries. At 50, I’m embracing a new perspective—the best is yet to come! My passion is to provide a safe, non-judgmental space where you can be heard without shame. I understand the questions you might be wrestling with: Am I still a Christian if I’m triggered? Why do I feel this way? Can I control my triggers? Do I lack faith because I’m not over it yet?

I’m here to walk alongside you in your pain, offering mercy, grace, and understanding. Together, we will let God turn our ashes into beauty, reflecting His light like a kaleidoscope.

“It’s not how many times you fall; it’s how you get up.” Let’s stand strong with the Lord on our side.

"Let your roots grow down into Him, and let your lives be built on Him.” Colossians 2:7

Hi there! I’m (Wilma)!

I’m a recovering Amish, RN and Certified Biblical Trauma Coach. I love Jesus and He is the reason I’m still alive. I have survived childhood trauma, divorce and abortion. I long to help others see the Truth about their trauma and who they are in Christ. Trauma produces lies within our shame and wounds; it takes awareness of these lies to exchange them with God’s Truth.

Shame is evil’s weapon used against us to keep us stuck in a rut. The Holy Spirit can empower us through Truth.

I want to help you grow in the Truth through walking out your healing. We can do that together.

Jesus is coming to find you in your trauma and I will be His hands and feet.

Together we will find the pearls in the poop, even if we have to put our boots and gloves on.

I look forward to watching how the Lord shows us truth and helps each of you to walk out of your shame.

  • Wilma is meant to be a coach! Having walked through her own trauma, Wilma is able to connect with her clients with a level of empathy and compassion that allows for a safe and healing space. She holds space for her clients to process their emotions without rushing them to move on. Wilma also has a gift for asking just the right question at the right time in a way that inspires reflection and curiosity in her clients that leads to their own revelation and insights (pearls in the poop!). She blances seiousenss with her own authentic "Wilma-style," which is both endearing and reassuring to her clients. Anyone would be blessed to work with her! Tara

    Your tears tell the world what your heart needs.

  • There is Hope in overcoming our triggers.

    There is hope its found in being aware of our trauma and understand we are having a normal response to an abnormal event.

  • Safety is healing. Safe relationships are ones where we are received as we are with no judgement. Jesus is safe, He see's us and he knows all the good and bad and does not shame us for it.

    How do you know if people are safe?

Certified Biblical Trauma Coaching

Jesus is coming to find you in your trauma. Shame is subtle and silent. You don’t need to get out of your pit before you come to Jesus. He climbs in with us.

Have you read my book? Dancing on The Dumpster By Willie J

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Psalm 113:7 He lifts the poor from dust and the needy from the garbage dump.

How the Lord pulls us up out of the garbage of our past and dances with us on top of it.

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